Public Speaking Anxiety & Fear of Being Noticeably Nervous

Find answers to common questions about public speaking anxiety, fear of being noticeably nervous, and performance anxiety, including symptoms, triggers, treatment, and strategies for lasting change.
Can therapy help with severe public speaking and performance anxiety?

The right therapy can. This requires a methodology that integrates FATE.

F=(function) physiology

A = (action) behavior

T = (thinking) cognition.

E = Emotion

Can public speaking anxiety be overcome after having it for many years?

Of course. That said it requires hard work and a major investment in technique concurrent with deep emotional work. The length of time someone has experienced public speaking anxiety does not necessarily determine whether meaningful improvement is possible. Long-standing patterns can become deeply ingrained, but people can learn new ways of responding to adrenaline, anxiety, self-criticism, avoidance, and the fear of being evaluated by others. In most cases it requires resolving complex trauma.

Why does trying to hide nervousness sometimes make anxiety worse?

Because it takes a lot of misplaced energy. Trying desperately to conceal anxiety requires constant self-monitoring. Instead of focusing on the conversation, audience, or message, attention becomes focused inward: “Am I blushing? Is my voice shaking? Can they see me sweating?” This heightened monitoring can increase anxiety and make normal physiological sensations seem more threatening.

Why am I so critical of myself after presentations?

Because you are experiencing negative rumination. It’s one thing to objectively evaluate the variables of performance to enhance the performance. It’s another to recycle thinking and over-analysis to nowhere which is a symptom of underlying self esteem challenges and unresolved and repressed emotion.

Can perfectionism contribute to public speaking anxiety?

Yes. Perfectionism is OCPD. That means obsessive compulsive personality disorder. Unrealistic expectations can create terror and toxic pressure

Can avoiding public speaking make anxiety worse?

Yes. Avoidance can strengthen public speaking anxiety because the person never gets the opportunity to develop a different response to the feared situation. Each avoided presentation or meeting can reinforce the belief that anxiety is unmanageable. Gradually developing the ability to tolerate and work through anxiety is an important part of long-term improvement. Common sense will tell you that practice is required for learning anxiety control skills.

Why do people with performance anxiety start avoiding meetings and presentations?

Avoidance provides immediate relief from anxiety, which can make it feel like an effective solution. However, that relief reinforces the idea that the situation was dangerous and needed to be escaped. Avoidance accrues and becomes more ingrained over time. It collects negative interest! Avoidant behavior can morph into avoidant personality disorder and a deep sense of self-loathing and shame.

How can public speaking anxiety affect your career?

Public speaking anxiety can cause people to avoid presentations, meetings, interviews, leadership opportunities, networking, sales situations, promotions, and other activities important to professional advancement. Someone may possess the knowledge and ability to succeed but find that anxiety prevents them from demonstrating those abilities consistently. The more avoidance takes place the more the individual is susceptible to dysthymia which is a subset of depression.

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