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Constant arguments with my girlfriend
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I am not sure if I suffer from this disorder, but i know that i do have some behavioral problem. The problem is that when ever the girlfriend and I have a disagrement it always turns into this huge fight where im at the point of packing my stuff and leaving. And if she cries or i see her in emotional pain like i feel practically no emotion towards it to want and comfort her. And i dont express my self to her or its hard to get a word out of me to communicate or show emotional comfort. And at times i have gotten anger out by being physical with material objects. Dont know what to do anymore but know i need help for this disorder.
There are layers to your problem (obviously). From the content you shared some of the layers are:
- Histrionic behavior.
- Lack of empathy.
- Nurturing deficit.
- Re: "hard to get a word out". The key here is to be clear if you want to get a word out. If you do and are not able to it's important to be clear on the diagnostics of the inhibited communication.
- Recycling anger and rage, which by the way, is usually the deepest and most important dynamic for individuals with emotional challenges to resolve. Anger does not always reside in a conscious domain. I'm sure you are aware that being physical with material objects is misplaced aggression.
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